The Transient Nature of Identity
I am on vacation and writing this on my iPod, so let’s hope it goes well. I have been thinking about this post for a couple of days now. Lots of time to reflect while I am staring at the ocean.
If you have read some of my posts over the past year, you know that I have struggled with a couple of job changes that really brought me back down to earth. Slowly but surely, I have been running into people at work who knew me in my other life, and I always feel the need to explain my backtracking career.
The simple truth is that my career is not who I am. I am a dreamer, a mom, a wife, and a pet owner. I am not a worker, although that is what I do to make ends meet.
I have heard comments from many friends and acquaintances that in other countries, people do not ask where you work or what is your profession. They just ask about you.
It is not our work that defines us, but who we are when we are not at work. An important job is impressive, and it can become your whole life if you let it, but it is all the other stuff that should define you and me. My hobbies, side roads and adventures are the things that I love to discuss. Although I might get on a rant about work occasionally, the great things that happen should occupy my mind in my free time.
In closing, friends, try to remember that jobs, houses, and material things do not define you. No matter how secure any of those things feel, they can all be gone in a blink. Even if you do define yourself by these things, if they are taken from you, then you can change what is important to you. Rearrange your priorities rather than lose hope. Perhaps a lesser role at work is okay too. This is the transient nature of our identities. We can roll with the punches and redefine ourselves. Isn’t life wonderful that way?
I am in total agreement. People seem so fixated on a job title like your self worth depends on it. I can proudly say I am a housewife and a stay at home mom and guess what? I feel just as important as any executive. We do need to pay more attention to the details that really matter. Good for you for not letting anything temporary define who you are 😉
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Thank you! I am working on it . I think there may be a part 2 since I am working from my iPod tonight. I applaud your choice of work, because being a mommy is no small job.
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😉
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Hi Cheryl, we are indeed on similar paths. Don’t worry about those helpful suggestions- just smile and nod. Thanks for reading and for adding to the conversation.
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You are exactly right. I would love to be a house wife and my wife would go out and make the money. That would rock. I am jealous
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😉 I have a visual of you holding homemade cupcakes in a silly little apron lol!
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Oh I would cook clean I would do it all if it meant i never had to leave the house. I would wear an apron and a dress
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Lol!
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Ha ha – I totally understand that comment coming from you. Thanks for reading and commenting on my post. Yes, even a good job stinks.
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Indeed it is Karen. It sounds like you and I are on similar paths. It has taken me quite awhile to get the idea that I muat be financially productive to be thought worhty out of my system, it is definitely what defined me back in the states. Even my creative efforts were always met with, “Wow. You should be selling this stuff”, which then brought in a trail of suggestions for how to work at my passion more productively. I am not against commerce or productivity, but why must every thing be brought back around to money? I truly wish we didn’t need it. Nice post. I hope you are enjoying your vacation.
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Oops, Cheryl, I replied to your comment in the wrong space! Look up.
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No worries. I got it. I usually read all the repiles. Thanks. 😊
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This has been on my mind a lot lately, and I thank you for the excellent reminders you provide here. I am finding that the more I simply “be me” the more joy, positivity, and “opportunities” arrive in my life 🙂
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Hi Joe, thank you for reading and commenting. I am glad you found something helpful here. It is difficult to find our way back to ourselves sometimes.
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Great point Karen. Hell even a good job is bad
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